The Social Media Happiness Trick
Today I’m touching on something a little different for me. It’s something I feel very strongly about, and while this may be a tad controversial, my blog is made up of my thoughts and opinions. You do not have to agree with me. In fact, if everyone agreed all the time life would be pretty boring huh?
I want to discuss the Social Media Happiness Trick.
Basically this is what I refer to as making your life look absolutely perfect online.
Recently a girl committed suicide because she didn’t think her life was as great as some of her friends portrayed it online. This young woman TOOK HER LIFE over a comparison that was probably very false to begin with.
Do you know how many people I have talked to that have used these phrases?
- “yeah my marriage sucks”— on Facebook it’s “my soulmate and I couldn’t be happier”
- “Do you know how many pictures we had to take to get us all smiling?”— on Facebook “having the best time with friends!”
- “I hate my body. I stared at it for hours”. —on Instagram “killer workout- so motivated and confident”
- My personal favorite “It’s YOU VERSUS YOU”. When in reality these people do nothing but compare themselves to images and one up one another.
As a blogger, yes I talk about my life. Yes I show pictures of me smiling, my progress, and all of that jazz, but for the most part I like to keep it real. 99% of people don’t want to do that. They don’t talk about how unhappy they are at their job, that they are stressed from home or school, or they are generally not in the place they want to be. I typically touch on all of that. I make changes, I try to put myself in a better place, and if I’m not… well, I usually say it. One thing that gets me everytime is that I can be a little too forward and honest. Plus my emotions show all over my face.
More recently I’ve been obsessed with social media. I check it A LOT. I would first use the excuse “I’m a blogger”, but really who are we kidding here? I am 100% happy with my job and life now that I’ve made this switch. I’m eating clean, I’m feeling good about my body.
Then I go on social media… and it hits me. People glorifying their lives. Making everything picture perfect. Showing their ripped bodies in all the right angles and all the right lighting. Yesterday I sat back and thought to myself “why am I comparing myself to these images?”. I’m perfectly happy right now. I feel confident in the gym and I feel great. Am I searching for some weird goal of perfection that I don’t even know exists?
The more I thought about it, the more I realized how unhealthy social media can be. I will ALWAYS remain a blogger, yes. What once was used as a connection with others across the globe has now turned into a bragging competition. I’m not about it and I definitely need a break from it.
I am continuing to blog (daily, hopefully), but social media is taking a backseat for a while. For the next few weeks I’m saying goodbye to Facebook and Instagram. Not deleting accounts, just not logging in, other than blog related commitments. I’ve become way too addicted to it and it needs to stop. I have no reason to compare myself to others. I’m strong, I’m happy, and I don’t need someone else’s approval or validation to tell me I’ve made progress. NEITHER DO YOU!
Be happy FOR YOU. Be strong FOR YOU. Let’s all stop comparing ourselves to this happiness trick!
So bye social media… for now 🙂
XOXO With a Cherry On Top,